What makes change so difficult for people?
That is the thing that I have been meditating on for the last few days. How to accomplish goals that seem out of reach, how to change habits that have become permanent fixtures. How to manage my time so that I can work and also be home-centered. How to get out of the house more during the day, despite the insane heat that causes both Kaya and I to feel ill. It's like there are a list of things I want to change now, or happen now, and yet they just can't.
Patience certainly is a gift. It's one that I am still trying to learn, how to slow down and say yeah, this isn't going to happen overnight and that's OK. I mean I feel patient on most days as I have learned the hard way from being an entrepreneur that success doesn't happen overnight. It's a slow process of refining your marketing, improving your product, tweaking your website. Same thing for being a parent.You can't do it all. You can't be someone you're not. But in the parenting world, there is this constant pressure to be the best. And to do things a certain way. As though there is a way and not many ways. Most days I feel confident I don't want to be someone else, and then there are bad days where I just go why can't I improve this or that? Why can't I wake up earlier, do more, go to bed earlier, write more often, bake/cook more....the list goes on and on.
Then I have a pep talk with myself about how long people take to change habits. Like an entrepreneur searching for ways to make things work out to sustain there business, changing habits requires persistence and patience. Comparing myself to others will never be effective. Wondering what is 'wrong' with me is pointless. Sure, we all have room for improvement but God made us the way we are for a reason. I like how Matthew Kelly puts it: we need to become the best version of ourselves. Not someone else. Not the best.
I believe in my heart perfection is unattainable, for anyone. It's when we let go of the notion we must be perfect that we start improving in our daily lives. When we believe in ourselves, that's when the change we are yearning for manifests.
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